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Focus on What You CAN Control

Focus on What You CAN Control
YOU are more in charge than you know.

Taking responsibility for the shape your body is in can be difficult. It's much easier to point the finger at someone or something outside. How many of the following excuses have you used before?

"I can't exercise, I have too much work."
"My spouse/children/relatives take too much of my time."
"I've got a medical condition."

In every single case, you're shifting blame to something outside your control. You're making yourself the victim in your own life. All of those things may be true, but instead of focusing on what's stopping you, you should be focusing on what you CAN change.

Say these nine simple words:

"I'm going to focus on what I CAN control."

Let's start with the excuse about too much work. If you're unable to modify your work schedule, you can make changes around the edges. For example, instead of driving everywhere, you might ride a bike, walk or jog to or from work. Bring your food, and exercise during part of your lunch break. You can even incorporate exercise into work by standing instead of sitting at a desk or walking around when you're on the phone.

None of those suggestions change the actual volume of work you have to deal with. What they do is help you rearrange and improve the parts of your life that you control. Instead of blaming work, "focus on what you can control" to incorporate fitness around, or into your work schedule.

The same holds true for family. Take your kids for a walk instead of sitting down in front of the television. Sign up with your spouse to take a dance class together. Look for activities that you can do to get you on your feet.

A friend of mine was expected to go with his spouse to her parents home every Sunday. They served a huge lunch after church. Everyone would eat until they were stuffed and then sit around complaining about how they always ate too much.

To change things up, one weekend my friend brought a game of horseshoes. He told everyone the day before, that he would be challenging them to a match after lunch. 

A funny thing happened. Nobody ate as much as they used to because they were excited about getting outside for the horseshoe game. Instead of sitting around the television, nodding off, they were standing and cheering, throwing the horseshoes and walking from goal to goal. Three hours later, when it was time to go, they had moved and laughed more than anyone could remember.

Every weekend after that was filled with a friendly challenge. They added a game called bocce ball, took trips to a bowling alley and frequented a mini-golf course. Sundays are still family time, but my friend changed the focus from food to activity.

Lots of people use a medical condition as an excuse. Now I'm not minimizing the suffering that you may be experiencing, but be careful of what you embrace. Stop focusing on what the disease is doing to you, and start focusing on what you can change.

Building muscle can help your body fight off the wasting caused by many long-term illnesses. Aerobic activity lessens mental decline. Even very limited physical activity can improve your mood, and happier people tend to live longer than sad people.

Become a person who's LIVING, not someone who's living with something, or even worse, dying from something.

Quit dodging accountability. Quit focusing on all the things, people and outside forces that have done you wrong. Your life may truly be a tragic series of country songs, but you don't have to live the role of victim. Accept responsibility and start making changes to the areas of your life you have control over. Complaining about everything else without taking action wastes your time and annoys the people around you. 

Repeat after me, "I'm going to focus on what I CAN control."

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